I think a critical part of being in any memory or heritage line of work is accepting and respecting at face value peoples stated desire that you not collect, save, and preserve the things that THEY made, said, etc.
Accepting and respecting without making people prove to you they’re being “rational” per your criteria. Understanding you may not get it.
Exceptions I do see—if they’re holding power over others, in public official positions, actively harming someone.
More broadly written, learn to respect an “I don’t want this” from a person’s self, body, creative works, words, etc., without trying to force them to prove anything to satisfy YOU
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